When Faith Speaks: The Unbreakable Power of Love and Marriage Rooted in God
In a world where so many couples fall apart under pressure, there are still stories that shine like beacons — stories that whisper, “Love still endures.”
This is one of those stories.
Nineteen years ago, my wife Kristen and I said “I do,” not realizing how many storms we’d weather, how many prayers we’d whisper, or how many times we’d see the hand of God reach into our lives and bind us closer together.
This isn’t just a reflection on marriage — it’s a living testimony of faith, forgiveness, and grace. It’s about how real love doesn’t depend on the absence of conflict but on the presence of God.
And today, I want to share that message — not as a counselor or preacher, but as a husband who has lived through both the beauty and the breaking.
If your marriage feels tired, if you’ve lost your spark, or if you’ve been praying for something to change, this story is for you.
You can also watch the full message in my latest video here: Faith-Based Marriage Message.
The Truth About Real Love
Real love isn’t found in grand gestures or perfect photos — it’s built in the quiet, unglamorous moments no one sees.
It’s in the mornings when you wake up tired, and someone still makes the coffee.
It’s in the evenings when the world feels heavy, but you hold hands anyway.
It’s in forgiveness after an argument that hurt more than either of you expected.
That’s where God lives — in the details, in the small daily choices that say: “I’m still here.”
When Kristen and I started our marriage, we had no idea how to balance everything — work, bills, kids, dreams, disappointments. We thought love was enough to carry us through. And while love is powerful, it wasn’t until we started building our home around faith that everything began to change.
Faith steadied us. Prayer shaped us. Grace renewed us.
Because love alone may start a marriage, but faith keeps it alive.
The Foundation That Never Cracks
A marriage without faith is like a house without a foundation — it looks beautiful until the first storm hits.
Early on, we faced those storms: financial struggles, sleepless nights, misunderstandings, seasons of exhaustion. There were moments when we didn’t have the right words or the right attitude. But what we did have — was prayer.
When we prayed together, we learned to let go of control. We realized that our marriage wasn’t ours to hold together — it belonged to God.
That changed everything.
It’s not about pretending to be perfect. It’s about knowing Who to run to when things fall apart.
Faith turned our fear into confidence.
It turned our frustration into understanding.
It turned our silence into surrender.
So if your marriage feels like it’s cracking — let faith become your cement. The strongest love stories aren’t written by perfect people; they’re written by people who know where to turn when they break.
The Beauty of Forgiveness
If there’s one lesson I’ve learned over nineteen years, it’s this: forgiveness is not a feeling — it’s a choice.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting what happened. It means trusting God to heal what you can’t fix.
There were times in our journey where misunderstanding hurt more deeply than we expected. But every single time, when we turned to God and forgave each other, we came out stronger than before.
Because forgiveness invites grace.
And grace changes everything.
The Bible says in Colossians 3:13 —
“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
That verse isn’t just good advice — it’s survival for a marriage.
When you forgive, you’re telling God, “I trust You with this pain. I choose peace over pride.”
That’s not weakness — that’s strength.
Prayer — The Language of Lasting Love
Prayer is the oxygen of a faith-based marriage. Without it, even the strongest relationships suffocate.
I can’t count how many times Kristen and I have prayed — for strength, for wisdom, for peace. Some prayers were long and tearful. Others were whispered quietly in passing. But all of them mattered.
Prayer became the heartbeat of our marriage.
There’s something sacred about holding hands and talking to God together. It shifts your focus from each other’s flaws to God’s faithfulness. It reminds you that the same God who brought you together is still at work within you.
If you’re struggling to pray with your spouse, start small. You don’t need perfect words — you just need an open heart.
Pray when you’re thankful. Pray when you’re hurting. Pray when you’re unsure.
And most importantly, pray together.
Because prayer isn’t just communication with God — it’s communion with each other.
The Quiet Miracles of Everyday Life
You don’t always notice God moving until you look back.
There were countless small miracles in our 19 years:
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The unexpected financial blessing when we needed it most.
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The right words showing up in the right moment.
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The peace that made no sense during chaos.
None of these moments made headlines. But each one reminded us that God was still writing our story.
Faith doesn’t make life easier — it makes life purposeful. It transforms ordinary days into sacred ground.
When I think about how far we’ve come, I see the fingerprints of grace on every chapter.
Every struggle taught us something eternal. Every trial was a test that revealed who God is — and who we are in Him.
Love That Teaches, Love That Heals
Marriage is one of God’s greatest classrooms.
It teaches patience when you want quick answers.
It teaches humility when you think you’re right.
It teaches compassion when you feel hurt.
And above all, it teaches dependence on God.
The more I’ve loved Kristen, the more I’ve learned what it means to love God — faithfully, selflessly, unconditionally.
That’s the secret to a lasting relationship: seeing your spouse not as your possession, but as your purpose — the person God entrusted to you to love the way He loves.
In Ephesians 5:25, Paul writes,
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.”
That’s not a suggestion. That’s a divine calling.
To every husband reading this — your strength doesn’t come from dominance. It comes from service.
And to every wife — your grace doesn’t come from perfection. It comes from faith.
When both give fully, the marriage becomes unstoppable.
Faith Over Feelings
There were times when our emotions told us one story — but faith told us another.
Feelings fluctuate. Love grounded in emotion alone won’t last. But faith… faith endures.
It’s the difference between saying “I love you because” and “I love you no matter what.”
Faith-based marriage doesn’t depend on convenience — it depends on covenant. You don’t stay because it’s easy. You stay because you promised.
And that promise wasn’t made to each other alone — it was made before God.
When you remember that, the arguments lose their power, and peace becomes your posture.
That’s the beauty of walking with God: He doesn’t remove the struggle; He redeems it.
Looking Ahead — Nineteen Years and Beyond
Nineteen years have taught me that marriage isn’t static — it’s a living, breathing reflection of God’s love.
Each year brings new challenges, new growth, new blessings. And while we’ve made our share of mistakes, we’ve also seen miracles — moments only God could orchestrate.
If you’re newly married, hold on tight to faith.
If you’re years in and weary, keep praying.
If you’re on the edge of giving up, remember: God never stops working.
Love is not about perfection. It’s about perseverance. It’s about choosing each other daily and choosing to trust the Author who wrote your love story.
Marriage is not about endurance for endurance’s sake. It’s about transformation.
The kind that reshapes hearts, rewrites patterns, and rebuilds hope.
When faith leads, love follows — and it never fails.
A Final Prayer for Every Couple Reading This
“Lord, thank You for the gift of marriage. Thank You for the covenant of love that mirrors Your faithfulness. Bless every couple reading this today — those celebrating, those struggling, and those holding on by a thread. Remind them that You are the third strand in their cord, the strength that keeps them together. Fill their hearts with grace, their home with peace, and their days with joy that never ends. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
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